I wonder

[roxy]

What happens when you're in a BDSM lifestyle and you're entering old age? I have no idea how to search for that. Geriatric BDSM didn't help. I know squat about the life, just what I read in stories. It was just a little idea that came of thinking about sex after fifty, and how everyone seems to think it doesn't exist, and then thinking about these tons of stories featuring young, healthy, gorgeous people. I think it'd be interesting to see how things change when knees and spines and hips and stuff won't let you do the things you did in your youth so easily. How would that make the sub feel, or the dom? Maybe it would be an easy and on-going progression of change, or would it be frightening, or disappointing?

Anyhoo, this is what I think about when I'm folding t-shirts and watching folks rip open sealed packs of undies. :)

Comments

[fanspired]

Sounds like a plot bunny to me :) I'd love to see you explore this question and see if you can find answers by writing about it. I think it could make for a funny and touching story.

[rosy5000.livejournal.com]

Ooooh kay... Not something I have EVER thought about, or even had an inkling I'd ever think about, but DAMIT!!! I'm curious now! LOL I think you need to seriously research this and let us all know what you find out. *G*

[write-light.livejournal.com]

http://www.thecoast.ca/halifax/aging-gracefully-into-bdsm/Content?oid=4117560
https://www.goodreads.com/author_blog_posts/4779735-bdsm-aging---can-we-still-play
http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/aging_bdsm.html
http://gapersblock.com/ac/2010/08/25/the-old-masters-bdsms-popularity-grows-among-senior-citizens/

Any of that of any help? I know less than zero about this topic

[elwarre.livejournal.com]

Was just going to link to that last article. It's great.

And I'm not like a bdsm-expert or anything, but I wouldn't recommend interpreting it through the stories. :) It's a whole, wide range of things, from slightly not-vanilla to people who sub/dom in life, not just scenes. And so much of it is about trust, about the ability to just let yourself go with someone - I can't imagine the desire for that goes away with age.

[tabaqui]

Ooooh, bb. You make me laugh and laugh. :)

Take off your employee name-tag or whatever and then pretend to be a fellow shopper and berate the assholes who are ripping open packages. That could be fun!

(And i know you're asking a serious question but still - made me laugh.)

[firesign10.livejournal.com]

You wanna work on it, I'll work on it with you :-) I think this is fascinating!!!!!

[me-ya-ri.livejournal.com]

Speaking as a Swinger (not quite BDSM but in the same basic community) you just keep on playing. Maybe more gently or slowly but being older means more skill, more knowledge of yourself and your partner and hey, even young people can want to get in on that. *wicked grin*

More importantly, as you age your kids (presuming you have them) grow up and (hopefully) move the fuck out. Yay for a spare room to play in and no kids around messing up play time! ;)