I wonder

[roxy]

What happens when you're in a BDSM lifestyle and you're entering old age? I have no idea how to search for that. Geriatric BDSM didn't help. I know squat about the life, just what I read in stories. It was just a little idea that came of thinking about sex after fifty, and how everyone seems to think it doesn't exist, and then thinking about these tons of stories featuring young, healthy, gorgeous people. I think it'd be interesting to see how things change when knees and spines and hips and stuff won't let you do the things you did in your youth so easily. How would that make the sub feel, or the dom? Maybe it would be an easy and on-going progression of change, or would it be frightening, or disappointing?

Anyhoo, this is what I think about when I'm folding t-shirts and watching folks rip open sealed packs of undies. :)

Comments

[fanspired]

Sounds like a plot bunny to me :) I'd love to see you explore this question and see if you can find answers by writing about it. I think it could make for a funny and touching story.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I'm really, really tempted to give it a go--I've never written anything close to the subject but still...it's interesting, yes?

[rosy5000.livejournal.com]

Ooooh kay... Not something I have EVER thought about, or even had an inkling I'd ever think about, but DAMIT!!! I'm curious now! LOL I think you need to seriously research this and let us all know what you find out. *G*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

LOL! Will do! Just for you and me! :D

[write-light.livejournal.com]

http://www.thecoast.ca/halifax/aging-gracefully-into-bdsm/Content?oid=4117560
https://www.goodreads.com/author_blog_posts/4779735-bdsm-aging---can-we-still-play
http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/aging_bdsm.html
http://gapersblock.com/ac/2010/08/25/the-old-masters-bdsms-popularity-grows-among-senior-citizens/

Any of that of any help? I know less than zero about this topic

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I will check those out, thank you so much!!

*crush grows*

[elwarre.livejournal.com]

Was just going to link to that last article. It's great.

And I'm not like a bdsm-expert or anything, but I wouldn't recommend interpreting it through the stories. :) It's a whole, wide range of things, from slightly not-vanilla to people who sub/dom in life, not just scenes. And so much of it is about trust, about the ability to just let yourself go with someone - I can't imagine the desire for that goes away with age.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Oh gosh, I figured that most of those stories, the folks know just as much as I do, ha!

I just had this image pop into my mind and now, it won't let go. Probably won't go anywhere, but still, when we get curious, we have to know!

And true, age doesn't change feelings much, no matter what the kids think--sex is not just for the pretty! ;D.

[tabaqui]

Ooooh, bb. You make me laugh and laugh. :)

Take off your employee name-tag or whatever and then pretend to be a fellow shopper and berate the assholes who are ripping open packages. That could be fun!

(And i know you're asking a serious question but still - made me laugh.)

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Heeeee!

You get me like few do, beloved! :D Love your suggestion too!

[firesign10.livejournal.com]

You wanna work on it, I'll work on it with you :-) I think this is fascinating!!!!!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

We do have to talk about this--the more I think about it, the more I want to write about it!

[me-ya-ri.livejournal.com]

Speaking as a Swinger (not quite BDSM but in the same basic community) you just keep on playing. Maybe more gently or slowly but being older means more skill, more knowledge of yourself and your partner and hey, even young people can want to get in on that. *wicked grin*

More importantly, as you age your kids (presuming you have them) grow up and (hopefully) move the fuck out. Yay for a spare room to play in and no kids around messing up play time! ;)

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

LOL! Very practical, my dear!

All I know about BDSM I learned from slash fic soooo...

There seemed to be an awful lot of kneeling and sitting with your hands behind your back in these stories, and I was just picturing myself and the hideous noises I make if I have to kneel and the equally hideous noises I make when I get back up and how long it takes and how rickety I look...and it just went on from there. :D :D :D

and HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGS!! ♥

[me-ya-ri.livejournal.com]

*grins and hugs you* Yeah, my adventures in BDSM haven't been very deep but from what I've seen it's very much a matter of 'if it don't work, shift it!' So if you can't kneel, well, that's what chairs are for. Sit proper and pretty for your Dom. Or if you can't hold you hands behind your back for long periods, there's holding them on your knees or in your lap instead. It's the submission, not the form, per se.

Which, yeah, for young people isn't true but I know perfectly well what my bod would do if I tried to kneel for more than a few seconds. Since I just did it to pack a box for the hubby and ow. Not happy knees.

But yeah, I think there could be a lovely funny story about an aging BDSM couple. XD

*squishes you*