Top? Bottom?

[roxy]

I sent a note to sillie82 recently, because of an interesting comment in a post of mine. I thought I should share my wondering with you,'cause I'm nice like that.

The issue was warning for top/bottom. Now me, I don’t get why it matters. I like switching the best, maybe I'm just greedy. In years past, I would have really gotten steamed about being asked to warn for who tops or bottoms. Nowadays, I sort of get that it's not my judgment to make, and for some people, it's *very* important. I'm working like hell to be more open to other folks—so I'm going to try and remember to tag for that stuff.

A question to you all.

I get how you label Top Dean(or top whoever). That means of course, that Dean is fucking various characters, not being fucked. So, how do you label it if there's non-penetrative sex, but one is clearly the aggressor, for lack of a better word? Would the person instigating the sex be the top? Does it even apply in a situation like that?

What do you think? What tags would you like to see that folks don’t use enough? What tags should people stop using? I vote "this is crap I don’t even know". I do—NONCLICKY.

Comments

[quiet--tiger.livejournal.com]

I want a "like" button for what tabaqui said above--give me a warning for the biggie things like death and mpreg, and actual real triggers like suicidal thoughts, extreme violence, non-con, that sort of thing, but otherwise I don't want a big cluttering of tags (as amusing as I find ones like "all the feels"). I think I go overboard the other way and don't do enough tags when I post, but I can't quite adapt to the tagapalooza over on AO3.

My "no click" tag has always been "not betaed." I don't give a crap if it's betaed or not, I mean, jeez, plenty of great/fun writers don't generally use a beta and it doesn't matter, but advertising that it isn't betaed as a "Warning" makes me feel like I need to brace myself for something that isn't written well, which I don't normally feel like doing. The "I suck at summaries" thing is annoying as well.

Basically, if I get bored reading the paragraph of tags, there are too many.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Yeah, the older I get, the more open I am to tagging, warning, stuff like that. As long as folks don't jump down my throat because I neglected to tag something, I'm good. But I think the abundance of useless tags at AO3 make the tagging system a joke instead of a useful tool. And the 'not betaed' tag is just a lazy-ass way to say "I wrote this and posted it without even spellchecking it."