my sister

[roxy]

I want to spare my niece if she's reading my journal today.


I'm feeling a little bit wired today. My sister had a bad night, which meant aggressive behavior and lots of crying--bits and pieces of her memories that weren't meshing with what's happening now, and lots of confusion. When she gets confused, she gets upset of course. The people at the group home she lives can’t handle that. I guess they aren’t trained to. For most of them, this is a part time job. They aren't ready to deal with a very upset, very aggressive person. I don’t know why they won't call me when this happens. I've told them, my sister’s husband has told them again and again, to call me when she gets violent. I'm too far away to run out and get her, but a lot of time she'll calm down at least enough to talk to other people when she talks to me. It’s too awful when this happens. She sounds so much like her old self at first, laughing and joking, all sarcastic and fun, and it’s great but I’m wincing too, because I know that it won’t be long before it’s all so much misery and sadness.

Her husband called me and told me to call and ‘work my magic’ on her. Fucking asshole. He really thinks I have some kind of magical control over her. Jesus, what an asswipe. It’s hard. I told him last night, that while I still thought he was a fucking dog’s penis (I was a leeeetle nicer than that) that I was glad he stuck it out and took care of her. He does. I don’t know what his motivation is but I don’t care. He does a good job of meeting her medical needs. That’s just one more thing I don’t have to worry about. All I need to handle are the girls and my pop.

It sucks what happened to her, and that my niece lost her mother. It sucks almighty.


In good news, Mr. Roxy’s foot is a-okay. He’s a little sore but not too bad. The tech that did the procedure was a tiny little guy, he looked funny holding this giant foot.
I love Mr. Roxy.

Comments

[kaydee23.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. I didn't know you were dealing with this. Does she have alzheimer's? My grandmother had that and it was so horrible.

I love you. You know. I wish I could make things better.

(((hugs)))

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I know, I love you too. Just getting hugs from you makes it better, you know? She has TBI, from a heart attack four years ago, so it's nothing new we're dealing with. Just sometimes it's really a lot.

[nataliadarimini.livejournal.com]

Ohmigosh, I had no idea. I'm so sorry. *clings*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Most of the time, it's okay. Every so often, it's not so okay. *hugs* thank you, lovey.

[suzvoy.livejournal.com]

Sucks muchly, dude. *snuggles up*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Sometimes, it sucks a whole lot. *clings*

[digitalwave]

Oh, sweetie,

I'm so sorry. For what your sister has lost, for what you and your family must go through when she has bad days. It's so hard so see something like this happening to someone you love so much.

Know we're here, sweetie, whenever you might need us.

*hugs you hard*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Hey, compared to a lot, we know we're lucky. the best thing about being here is that I know I can talk about it and I know folks care. *hugs back so hard*

[luvmax1.livejournal.com]

What a horrible situation for you and your family to be in. I'm so sorry, Roxy. I'll keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Lovey, you are an amazing person--you deal with worse on the daily, and handle it way better than me. Thank you so much!

[xinsidemyskinx.livejournal.com]

**huggles u close**

**gives u a mini lex**

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*cries and hugs you back* you're too good to me!

[tzi.livejournal.com]

*HUGS* God, baby. I wish... Well. You wish, too. I know. You're really strong and brave. It's unimaginable, dealing with that kind of pain.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

no, no, I'm not strong or brave, I'm pretty whiny. Thank you so much, I know you understand. *hugs back hard*

[tabaqui]

*hugs you hard hard hard*
You know if i lived down the block i'd run you all around today and buy you things and make you lasagne or enchiladas and snuggle on the couch with you.
*hugs you more*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

you make me cry! I love you so much!

[sweptawaybayou.livejournal.com]

*hugs you tight*

*smoochsmooch*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*hughughug* oh, thank you! It makes me feel so much better, it really does.

[katholicgrrl.livejournal.com]

(((Hugs you hard))) You brave beautiful Roxy ~ sends lots of love and energy to you!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I love you so much, girl. *hugshard*

[rosy5000.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*clings*

[dawnybee.livejournal.com]

//Her husband called me and told me to call and ‘work my magic’ on her. Fucking asshole. He really thinks I have some kind of magical control over her.//
And it's an unfair burden on you. Not burden so much as being there for your sister, but unfair that you have to "make everything all right."

:hugs you tight::

It's rough, but you have to look towards the good days she'll have.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

You know, it's that he didn't want us to talk when she was well, he wanted to keep her from her family, and now, the SOB wants us. He's the typical fucking abusive bastard, and now he feels guilt.

I love anyday she's up enough to talk, I really do.

[mkitty3.livejournal.com]

Oh sugar, I had no idea you were dealing with this:( I'm so sorry. And y'know if you ever need to talk just email me. We could even do that weird chat thing that people do. *loves you so much you don't even know!*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much! I can't say I deal with it--she doesn't live with me, and I'm not really responsible for her care, yet. I see her once a month, and talk to her a few times a month. Most of the time, she sleeps. It's hard to keep her awake, actually. I really miss her. Thank you love, it means a lot and I *do* know you care.

Your icon made me cry!!!!

[matryoshkarose.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry! *hugs*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*hugs back* thanks lovey, thanks so much.

[danceswithgary]

*hug*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*CLING*

[myownghost.livejournal.com]

i'm sorry to learn of this. how sad that your sister isn't the woman she used to be. it must be so hard for you all.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

It is hard, it's horrible for her daughter. She lost her mom at 17. I can deal with it but for her, it's pretty devastating.

[chimosa.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear all of this, I can't imagine how hard this must be for you. Especially since your sister's husband has put this pressure on you for being her miracle cure, that's a lot of responsibility for anyone to take, I'm sure. I'm sending you lots and lots of love as I type, I hope you can feel it :-)

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you sweetie, I feel the love, I really do!

[teot.livejournal.com]

*hugs tight*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

thank you for your hugs--and your icon makes me smile all over!

[clarkscherry.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Your family is very lucky to have you. Feel free to vent. I know it helps me. Glad Mr. Roxy is progressing in the right direction.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

heh, I tell my self that! :) *HUGS* Thank you--and Mr. Roxy says thank you too!

[tasabian.livejournal.com]

Roxy, I'm so sorry - that's an awful lot for you to cope with. *hugs*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Lovey, thank you so much, you make me feel cared for!

[fleegull.livejournal.com]

I am so sorry that you and your niece have lost someone so precious to you like this.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*hug* thank you so much for thinking about us. She's here with me tonight, and we've been kind of propping each other up all night. thank god for my brilliant, wonderful niece.

[justabi.livejournal.com]

*hugs you like whoa*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*cries and clings to you* Come get me!!!!!!!!!!!

[capnzebbie.livejournal.com]

I remember you talking about your sister before. I'm sorry you having such a hard time. {{{hugs}}} It's good that you and your niece have each other for comfort.

I'm glad Mr. Roxy's foot is better. :)

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Hey, love, sorry to get back to you so late. Thank you so much for the hugs and wishes. My Beloved Niece really keeps my brain together. She's such an incredible person, and we all depend on her as much as she depends on us. She's like cool doubled and tripled, that one is. *shmooch* Thanks for caring, dear heart.

[carolandtom.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry, Roxy. *Hugs*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*hugs you back* I love you too, kiddo.

Your ex-RTW team lead

[(Anonymous)]

I'm going to do my best to cheer you a teeny smidgen in 3 simple steps.

1. I found that tattoo book I borrowed from you ages ago (my mother had it hidden in her black hole of a computer desk).
2. My family is moving to your town NEXT WEEKEND!
3. I'm a godmother! Isn't she beautiful? http://i146.photobucket.com/albums/r280/NoWay226/100_0018.jpg

I miss you and think about you often. Email me sometime. We'll have coffee and be evil together. I need a mentor. lethal_lemon_chic@yahoo.com

Re: Your ex-RTW team lead

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Hey sweetie-pie!!! Wow, how nice to hear from you! I miss you too! And yes, we should definitely get together for coffee! (why, you can bring methe book! *G*)

MMMMMWAAAH!! *HUGS*