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I'm feeling so good. Sitting here at my desk and writing away. Having fun.It was a very different story the other day.

I had a fight of sorts with BG. She looked at what I was writing and had a mental breakdown. Hokey Smokes, you'd have thought I murdered the Pope. I wanted to whack her so bad--she yelled and stomped off and then acted like I killed her real mother and had the nerve to cry. We didn't speak to each other for almost a whole day. I know that doesn't sound like much but for us, it's pretty bad to be that angry for so long.

and you know--I basically wanted to knock her out. I've told her and told her, this is my business, if she had private business, so did I. She's 19 and we don't have to share a brain anymore, y'know? I don't pretend to myself that she's out there pure as the driven snow, christ, I haven't lost my memory yet. But this incident let me know that maybe I shouldn't be as open about what I do...maybe I should hide. I hate to--I mean, I took my beautiful background down, I already edit my wallpapers because the girl gets upset at some of them. Shit--I had no idea how upset. *sigh*

what did I do wrong?

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*hugs you hard hard hard*

You didn't do anything wrong, bay-bee. Nothing at all. You're right - what you write is your business and yours alone. I'm sorry BG doesn't like it but that's pretty much tough luck for her.

Your write because it's in there - in you. Creativity waiting to happen. And you write wonderful, beautiful, warm-in-the heart things, like Summer Story, and you write, let's face it, some dark, dark stuff... But it's your voice so she's just gonna have to buck up.

I hate that you're getting any kind of flack, bay-bee. It sucks so bad. I wish I could have you over for the night and feed you and hug you and make you laugh.

*hugs you more*
Anything I can do, just say the word. Anything.

Oh girl-- that's my fantasy! I know I'd have the very best time in the world at your house! You always make me feel loved, you know that--just a couple of words from you and I'm flying high!

I guess my Baby wants to think of me more as Donna Reed. She'll have to get over it. I know part of it is that she worries about me, but that's *my* job, to worry about *her*. she's a good kid--just she's kind of conservative. And damn straight--tough luck for her. *grin*

So, close your eyes, I'm giving you a big big hug! Feel that? Mmmmmwah! love you so much!

I did feel it!
*beams*
Donna Reed - ack. How dull. How stifling. How...how...so NOT you, Ms. Thang!

If I could, i'd fly you here tomorrow.
Or fly me there, even better.
A hotel! Spa day!
Heeeee.

*smoooch*
*hug hug hug*

I'm assuming you're talking about your daughter here???? Forgive me, I don't know too much about your RL. I have to ask, though, what her problem is with it...is it the fact that it's guys together, or maybe that it's her MOM writing this stuff? You didn't do anything wrong, sweetie, don't go thinking that. It's difficult for some people to deal with, and they just need to grow up and realize, like you said--it's your business and has nothing to do with her. I, for one, will cheer you on when you write (says the girl who hasn't read any of your recent fics...*sigh*). But don't feel bad, I haven't read ANY fics recently! I'm not avoiding you! lol

Yep, my beloved child. I don't think she's upset about the fact it's guys--trust me, it could be het and she'd have the same reaction. She's a good kid, she just needs to realize that we have separate lives now, and I think she wants me to be Room Mom for the rest of my life. and yes, she needs to get a grip! *grin*

HEEY! OY! How can you not be reading my astonishing gems of literary brilliance! So offended I am! Behold, I rend my garments!
*snorfle*

Wow. You know, as kids grow up we have to learn to accept the adults they become. What they don't realize is that it goes both ways. As they become adults, they have to get to know us as people, not just as parents. Sometimes it's a big shocker to discover who your parents really are, but they need to be ready to accept us just the same as we accept them.

*turns off sappy music*

In other words, she needs to just suck it up. *g*

*hugs and sends virtual chocolate*

Yes, yes, every word you speak is truth! Thanks for backing me up!

Oooooo! Chocolate! *hugs back*

*hugs* You didn't do anything wrong. More than anything else, sometimes realizing that your parents have sexuality at all can be very unsettling. There is a big difference between seeing yourself as proof that at some point, mom and dad did... something vague and nebulous... to realizing (via writing, in this case) that your mother does have sexuality. If she is closer to you or has certain ideas about female sexuality in general, her response could be affected by that.

I'm not familiar with your daughter or your relationship with her, but this might be a good time to have a chat with her. Nothing in-depth, more just a general sort of "You're growing up, and I appreciate you as a person" sort of opener that might lead to you guys talking about some fo the vertigo associated with realizing that parents and children are people too.

*hugs*

Yes, I'd like to talk to her about this growing up thing. She's a really terrific kid, and we're close enough I think. But she's always been very close-mouthed about her personal feelings which is hard for me, because I can go on and on about what I'm feeling. I feel like I'm walking a tightrope between being intrusive and wanting to share with this kid. She's lucky I do remember so well being a kid and what it felt like. Ah well. she'll get over this and in the meantime, we're hugging and shmoozing like usual, so--*shrug* We'll see.
*hugs back* thanks darling, for being so concerned.

/I mean, I took my beautiful background down, I already edit my wallpapers because the girl gets upset at some of them.//

Oh, noes!!

Hey, but like you said, you two don't share a brain anymore. I used to work at the same job as my mom and it was hard work to be myself and yet still be her babygirl that she knew (literally, for I am the baby in the family).

Just keep doing what you're doing. I won't say she'll come around, but she'll definitely respect that you have your own thing going on.

Yeah, she's the one and only Baby Girl here, so she's used to a lot of attention being focused on her. You're right, I wouldn't stop doing this because I really enjoy it, so like you say, she'll have to learn to respect the fact that what's mine is mine.
Maybe she'd be cooler about it if I were writing QAF fic? Hmmm....

Children do tend to be critical of their parents, especially at that age, when they're trying to find themselves...
I am sorry for your fight, darling.
*hugs you tightly*
You did nothing wrong. You have the right to do your own thing and still be her mommy. I don't share my Clex deskies or my work with the hubs either. He knows about it but it's just something mine, you know?
*kisses and pets*

He knows about it but it's just something mine, you know? You know, sometimes I need to resist the urge to share every dang bit of my life with everyone! *grin*

Thanks so much, love, you're a gem for sure. You talk to her for me! *biggrin*

Oh, believe me! Teenagers?? MY turf!!
:D

uh...Am I just a super weird fucking anamoly for being like "Yay slash-writing-auntie-mom!"?

No-you're the good child. *grin*

You know what? Recently having been 19, I can tell you this, no one wants their parents to be sexual creatures. You just don't. You didn't do anything wrong. She's going to have to deal with it. It's just part of becoming an adult. *bighugsssss*

Poor kid. I hope I didn't traumatize her for life--though I think it'll provide incentive to get a well paying job so she can afford therapy....

Perhaps a nice brain scrub.

*uses an innocent icon* ^__~

But you have done nothing wrong. Absolutely nothing at all. Because I don't know BG at all, I hope I am not wrong in suggesting this, but she is just not mentally matured yet. Get her to read some books, expand her horizon.

While she is learning, perhaps it would be easier to just hide what you do. Or at least set a time when you can do it and she cannot complain about it. it is not fair to you at all, but it is no use to argue with someone when they are deadset in their views.

Well, I think it's more like folks have suggested, it's pretty much a 'not my mom thing.'

While she is learning, perhaps it would be easier to just hide what you do.
Since posting this earlier, I've had a lot of time to think about it and you know, that hiding thing would work only if she were paying the mortgage. I love my BabyGirl like crazy, but it's my house, so in the words of women wiser than me, she'll just have to suck it up!
At the end of the day--*I'm* the boss. *wink*

Hey-that's a real innocent icon. *g*

Well it is good to see you all happy again!

*uses her not so innocent icon*

Awww! *pinches their little cheeks*

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