Lord help me and mine....

[roxy]

My child is moving...again. From the apartment that she just moved into. Yes, I know. She's moving into a different place, because of extreme phobias. No one understands, except folks who also have phobias that can turn one's life inside out. We talked about it and I supported her move, but asked for her promise to seek counseling of some kind because this is just too much. So this move, she's totally on her own. She's a grown, mature woman, and this is her life, she has to live it the way she wants. But that doesn't mean we have to live it with her. The move is totally, completely on her. How she accomplishes it is in her court. Mom and Dad are tapped out, financially and mentally.

Staycation is almost over--I have one more day. Except for the mind-boggling news my kid dropped in my lap, it's been so good that I'm kind of considering taking early retirement and just becoming a hermit. Nothing would make me happier than to shut my door on the world outside and just...breathe. I have two more months to think about it. Hmmmm...*ponders* I wonder if I can cut my hours at Red Bulls-eye Satan without getting fired and then live off the riches of my retirement. And my husband, poor man. Hell, he's younger than me, he can deal.

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Comments

[carolandtom.livejournal.com]

Breathe and try to enjoy, Roxy. Our children have to live their own lives and we have to try and do our best with ours. Relax and basque in the love of your family and friends.

(This comment brought to you by a friend that, somehow, is still around here) :D

[rednihilist.livejournal.com]

Hello, lovely! Oh, the moving. (We've had some godawful drama featuring moving in my family lately, and I sincerely hope your daughter's is smooth as a dream.) Sorry your daughter's having a tough go, but backing away a little is longterm the best option imo.

The Hermit Option sounds glorious, and I'm with you about Red Bulls-eye Satan (which I can hopefully borrow from now on because it's so fucking accurate), but damn that money, right?

In short, I miss you. Today is terrible (Orlando, oh my fucking God), but you've made me smile (inside, where all my real smiles are).

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[tabaqui]

Ah, bb.
*hugs you hard*

It's a very, very, very hard thing to know your child has problems, and to *not* do whatever you can for them. At some point, they *do* need to step up as the adult they are and take care of them on their own. You are 100 percent right.

Even though I know the hurt and the anxiety that causes.
(And i'm not where you are, yet, but I will be - I have to be - at some point.)

Shutting out the world sounds like a lovely idea. I wish I could. Except for all of you all, here online, I just...don't want the world much anymore. Or, rather - I don't want the people.
*Hugs you more*

You'll be okay, bb, and so will she.
*love and blessings*

[fufaraw]

It's teetering between I want to make it better for my child, and parenting fatigue. Sometimes it's just better to not engage, for her and for you.

I hope it goes as smoothly as possible and she lands somewhere she can be comfortable and stay. Phobias are so exhausting to live with, poor lamb.

And poor mama, as well.

Early retirement can be great, as long as you have stuff lined up to keep you busy and engaged, once you get past the "Wheeee!" stage. And the money, yes.

[luvmax1.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry your daughter is going through these issues. I think you have the right attitude, for what it's worth.

As for early retirement- my dad did, and he loved it so much that he uses his retirement date as his pin number!