my sister

[roxy]

I want to spare my niece if she's reading my journal today.


I'm feeling a little bit wired today. My sister had a bad night, which meant aggressive behavior and lots of crying--bits and pieces of her memories that weren't meshing with what's happening now, and lots of confusion. When she gets confused, she gets upset of course. The people at the group home she lives can’t handle that. I guess they aren’t trained to. For most of them, this is a part time job. They aren't ready to deal with a very upset, very aggressive person. I don’t know why they won't call me when this happens. I've told them, my sister’s husband has told them again and again, to call me when she gets violent. I'm too far away to run out and get her, but a lot of time she'll calm down at least enough to talk to other people when she talks to me. It’s too awful when this happens. She sounds so much like her old self at first, laughing and joking, all sarcastic and fun, and it’s great but I’m wincing too, because I know that it won’t be long before it’s all so much misery and sadness.

Her husband called me and told me to call and ‘work my magic’ on her. Fucking asshole. He really thinks I have some kind of magical control over her. Jesus, what an asswipe. It’s hard. I told him last night, that while I still thought he was a fucking dog’s penis (I was a leeeetle nicer than that) that I was glad he stuck it out and took care of her. He does. I don’t know what his motivation is but I don’t care. He does a good job of meeting her medical needs. That’s just one more thing I don’t have to worry about. All I need to handle are the girls and my pop.

It sucks what happened to her, and that my niece lost her mother. It sucks almighty.


In good news, Mr. Roxy’s foot is a-okay. He’s a little sore but not too bad. The tech that did the procedure was a tiny little guy, he looked funny holding this giant foot.
I love Mr. Roxy.

Comments

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Sometimes, it sucks a whole lot. *clings*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Hey, compared to a lot, we know we're lucky. the best thing about being here is that I know I can talk about it and I know folks care. *hugs back so hard*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Lovey, you are an amazing person--you deal with worse on the daily, and handle it way better than me. Thank you so much!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*cries and hugs you back* you're too good to me!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

no, no, I'm not strong or brave, I'm pretty whiny. Thank you so much, I know you understand. *hugs back hard*

[luvmax1.livejournal.com]

I couldn't do it without friends like you, Roxy. You guys are my lifeline these days.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*hughughug* oh, thank you! It makes me feel so much better, it really does.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I love you so much, girl. *hugshard*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*clings*

[fleegull.livejournal.com]

I am so sorry that you and your niece have lost someone so precious to you like this.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

You know, it's that he didn't want us to talk when she was well, he wanted to keep her from her family, and now, the SOB wants us. He's the typical fucking abusive bastard, and now he feels guilt.

I love anyday she's up enough to talk, I really do.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much! I can't say I deal with it--she doesn't live with me, and I'm not really responsible for her care, yet. I see her once a month, and talk to her a few times a month. Most of the time, she sleeps. It's hard to keep her awake, actually. I really miss her. Thank you love, it means a lot and I *do* know you care.

Your icon made me cry!!!!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*hugs back* thanks lovey, thanks so much.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*CLING*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

It is hard, it's horrible for her daughter. She lost her mom at 17. I can deal with it but for her, it's pretty devastating.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you sweetie, I feel the love, I really do!

[justabi.livejournal.com]

*hugs you like whoa*

[tzi.livejournal.com]

You ARE, though. You really are. It's the hardest thing in the world. =( *HUGS* I can only imagine the terribleness of it.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

thank you for your hugs--and your icon makes me smile all over!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

heh, I tell my self that! :) *HUGS* Thank you--and Mr. Roxy says thank you too!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Lovey, thank you so much, you make me feel cared for!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*hug* thank you so much for thinking about us. She's here with me tonight, and we've been kind of propping each other up all night. thank god for my brilliant, wonderful niece.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*cries and clings to you* Come get me!!!!!!!!!!!

[capnzebbie.livejournal.com]

I remember you talking about your sister before. I'm sorry you having such a hard time. {{{hugs}}} It's good that you and your niece have each other for comfort.

I'm glad Mr. Roxy's foot is better. :)

[carolandtom.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry, Roxy. *Hugs*