my sister

[roxy]

I want to spare my niece if she's reading my journal today.


I'm feeling a little bit wired today. My sister had a bad night, which meant aggressive behavior and lots of crying--bits and pieces of her memories that weren't meshing with what's happening now, and lots of confusion. When she gets confused, she gets upset of course. The people at the group home she lives can’t handle that. I guess they aren’t trained to. For most of them, this is a part time job. They aren't ready to deal with a very upset, very aggressive person. I don’t know why they won't call me when this happens. I've told them, my sister’s husband has told them again and again, to call me when she gets violent. I'm too far away to run out and get her, but a lot of time she'll calm down at least enough to talk to other people when she talks to me. It’s too awful when this happens. She sounds so much like her old self at first, laughing and joking, all sarcastic and fun, and it’s great but I’m wincing too, because I know that it won’t be long before it’s all so much misery and sadness.

Her husband called me and told me to call and ‘work my magic’ on her. Fucking asshole. He really thinks I have some kind of magical control over her. Jesus, what an asswipe. It’s hard. I told him last night, that while I still thought he was a fucking dog’s penis (I was a leeeetle nicer than that) that I was glad he stuck it out and took care of her. He does. I don’t know what his motivation is but I don’t care. He does a good job of meeting her medical needs. That’s just one more thing I don’t have to worry about. All I need to handle are the girls and my pop.

It sucks what happened to her, and that my niece lost her mother. It sucks almighty.


In good news, Mr. Roxy’s foot is a-okay. He’s a little sore but not too bad. The tech that did the procedure was a tiny little guy, he looked funny holding this giant foot.
I love Mr. Roxy.

Comments

[kaydee23.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. I didn't know you were dealing with this. Does she have alzheimer's? My grandmother had that and it was so horrible.

I love you. You know. I wish I could make things better.

(((hugs)))

[nataliadarimini.livejournal.com]

Ohmigosh, I had no idea. I'm so sorry. *clings*

[suzvoy.livejournal.com]

Sucks muchly, dude. *snuggles up*

[digitalwave]

Oh, sweetie,

I'm so sorry. For what your sister has lost, for what you and your family must go through when she has bad days. It's so hard so see something like this happening to someone you love so much.

Know we're here, sweetie, whenever you might need us.

*hugs you hard*

[luvmax1.livejournal.com]

What a horrible situation for you and your family to be in. I'm so sorry, Roxy. I'll keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

[xinsidemyskinx.livejournal.com]

**huggles u close**

**gives u a mini lex**

[tzi.livejournal.com]

*HUGS* God, baby. I wish... Well. You wish, too. I know. You're really strong and brave. It's unimaginable, dealing with that kind of pain.

[tabaqui]

*hugs you hard hard hard*
You know if i lived down the block i'd run you all around today and buy you things and make you lasagne or enchiladas and snuggle on the couch with you.
*hugs you more*

[sweptawaybayou.livejournal.com]

*hugs you tight*

*smoochsmooch*

[katholicgrrl.livejournal.com]

(((Hugs you hard))) You brave beautiful Roxy ~ sends lots of love and energy to you!

[rosy5000.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[dawnybee.livejournal.com]

//Her husband called me and told me to call and ‘work my magic’ on her. Fucking asshole. He really thinks I have some kind of magical control over her.//
And it's an unfair burden on you. Not burden so much as being there for your sister, but unfair that you have to "make everything all right."

:hugs you tight::

It's rough, but you have to look towards the good days she'll have.

[mkitty3.livejournal.com]

Oh sugar, I had no idea you were dealing with this:( I'm so sorry. And y'know if you ever need to talk just email me. We could even do that weird chat thing that people do. *loves you so much you don't even know!*

[matryoshkarose.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry! *hugs*

[danceswithgary]

*hug*

[myownghost.livejournal.com]

i'm sorry to learn of this. how sad that your sister isn't the woman she used to be. it must be so hard for you all.

[chimosa.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear all of this, I can't imagine how hard this must be for you. Especially since your sister's husband has put this pressure on you for being her miracle cure, that's a lot of responsibility for anyone to take, I'm sure. I'm sending you lots and lots of love as I type, I hope you can feel it :-)

[teot.livejournal.com]

*hugs tight*

[clarkscherry.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Your family is very lucky to have you. Feel free to vent. I know it helps me. Glad Mr. Roxy is progressing in the right direction.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

you make me cry! I love you so much!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I know, I love you too. Just getting hugs from you makes it better, you know? She has TBI, from a heart attack four years ago, so it's nothing new we're dealing with. Just sometimes it's really a lot.

[tabaqui]

Don't cry!!
*hugs you more*

Love you too, Miss Roxy.

[tasabian.livejournal.com]

Roxy, I'm so sorry - that's an awful lot for you to cope with. *hugs*

[kaydee23.livejournal.com]

Well, I'm here to tell you that whenever you want you can put a lot or a little on me. I'm pretty sturdy. I haven't fallen or even tripped in a long long time.

(((hugs))))

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Most of the time, it's okay. Every so often, it's not so okay. *hugs* thank you, lovey.