Sad

[roxy]

I was going to spend this evening answering all the comments and the very, very kind words and rec I got from tabaqui, thank you darling one, but I got awful news tonight.

I have a friend that I've been estranged from for many years. Sad that, because we practically lived in each other's pockets when the kids were young. My sis and I spent huge amounts of time there, along with my cousin. But there was a falling out between families for reasons that aren't all that important now. Tonight I got news her daughter died suddenly. It happened early evening. I was shocked--I knew this girl since she was five years old. We always got along well, I was really fond of her, but this kid held a grudge like it was her religion and in the falling out, I was put down on the side to be snubbed. That doesn't matter now. I went to offer my former friend whatever help she needed if she wanted to take it, and she seemed happy to see me. Almost ten years since we've seen each other. What a horrible thing to happen. How *horrible* to lose your only child, even more so when you don't have anyone else but that child. It was like a nightmare come to life for me.

I don't know what's going to happen now, if we'll reconnect. It would be nice if we did. If not, at least she knows that if she wants it, we're here.

Comments

[ferdalump.livejournal.com]

*hugs tightly*

Awww, Rosy. I'm so sorry to hear about that. :( My thoughts are with you and your old friend's family.

[anitac588.livejournal.com]

That is terrible news, Roxy. *hugs*

[digitalwave]

Sweetie,

I am so sorry for you both.

Losing your child is so horrible. I watched my mom age overnight when my older brother, Jimmy, was killed in Vietnam. I'd lost my brother and it hurt like hell but she'd lost one of her babies.

I so hope that she lets you reach out to her. It would be good for you both.

*hugs you very hard*

[calijirl5150.livejournal.com]

Prayers for you & your friend. As the saying goes " A Parent Should never outlive a Child", worse thing just be there for them & I'll be here for you however you need me PM me for my cell.

[tasabian.livejournal.com]

That's so awful. Your poor friend. I can't imagine her grief and sadness right now.

I'm so sorry for your loss too, Roxy. Knowing someone for her whole life...it still leaves a sad gap.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*HUGS*

Thank you, lovey.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you for the hugs, my dear. I really need them now.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much, my dear. *leans into you*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*HUGS*

Thank you so very much! I can't even imagine her pain, you know?

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

When my cousin called to tell me, all I could say was no--it just didn't seem possible. I can't even begin to imagine how horrible this must be for her. Those two were so close. Thank you so much for your sympathy, my dear.

[ferdalump.livejournal.com]

Forgive my typo, too. It's late and I can't edit it. :(

*smushes*

[rednihilist.livejournal.com]

Goddamn, hon. Just. . . goddamn.

*LOVE*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*SHMOOCH*

Fred--I love you! Not to worry!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*HUGSOHARD*

I can't even believe it, love! It's like a terrible dream!

[twinsarein.livejournal.com]

I can't imagine anything worse. I feel for her loss so much right now, and I've never met her. For someone who knew her almost her whole life...I'm sorry for your loss, as well. *clings*

[ferdalump.livejournal.com]

**giggles** ;) It's especially funny because my mom used to call my hoo hoo a Fred. :p

*Shmooches back*

[rosy5000.livejournal.com]

Oh Roxy, that's so sad to her. :( My thoughts are with you and your friend. *hugs to you both*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*SNORFLE* I'll remember that....*G*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*HUGHUGHUG*

Thank you, my dear. It's just insane--I can barely believe it.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*CLINGS TO YOU*

[onelittlesleep.livejournal.com]

Oh, I can't imagine losing a child. I know she can't be well, but I hope she can find comfort in the people who love and support her. And I hope there is some way you guys can connect together, because it sounds like she might need a friend like you right now.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I know--oh gosh, I wouldn't let my kid leave my side tonight, I had to keep looking at her and touching her.

A lot of people came to be with her, and that was wonderful, plus, so many of her daughters friends were there with her. We've offered to help her with funeral arrangements--she and my Ed go to the same church--yeah, weird, right? Hopefully she will keep in touch. It's just such an overwhelming thing.

[cha.livejournal.com]

OOh, that's horrible. I do hope that your friend is okay and I'm sure she appreciates you contacting her.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much. She's with friends now and I'm hoping she'll want to stay in touch.

Awww, icon hugs!

[dawnybee.livejournal.com]

I am so sorry to hear this. Your poor friend--all of you. Hopefully she's see this as an opportunity to reconnect, she'll need all the support she can get.