Sad

[roxy]

I was going to spend this evening answering all the comments and the very, very kind words and rec I got from tabaqui, thank you darling one, but I got awful news tonight.

I have a friend that I've been estranged from for many years. Sad that, because we practically lived in each other's pockets when the kids were young. My sis and I spent huge amounts of time there, along with my cousin. But there was a falling out between families for reasons that aren't all that important now. Tonight I got news her daughter died suddenly. It happened early evening. I was shocked--I knew this girl since she was five years old. We always got along well, I was really fond of her, but this kid held a grudge like it was her religion and in the falling out, I was put down on the side to be snubbed. That doesn't matter now. I went to offer my former friend whatever help she needed if she wanted to take it, and she seemed happy to see me. Almost ten years since we've seen each other. What a horrible thing to happen. How *horrible* to lose your only child, even more so when you don't have anyone else but that child. It was like a nightmare come to life for me.

I don't know what's going to happen now, if we'll reconnect. It would be nice if we did. If not, at least she knows that if she wants it, we're here.

Comments

[ferdalump.livejournal.com]

*hugs tightly*

Awww, Rosy. I'm so sorry to hear about that. :( My thoughts are with you and your old friend's family.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*HUGS*

Thank you, lovey.

[anitac588.livejournal.com]

That is terrible news, Roxy. *hugs*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you for the hugs, my dear. I really need them now.

[digitalwave]

Sweetie,

I am so sorry for you both.

Losing your child is so horrible. I watched my mom age overnight when my older brother, Jimmy, was killed in Vietnam. I'd lost my brother and it hurt like hell but she'd lost one of her babies.

I so hope that she lets you reach out to her. It would be good for you both.

*hugs you very hard*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much, my dear. *leans into you*

[calijirl5150.livejournal.com]

Prayers for you & your friend. As the saying goes " A Parent Should never outlive a Child", worse thing just be there for them & I'll be here for you however you need me PM me for my cell.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*HUGS*

Thank you so very much! I can't even imagine her pain, you know?

[tasabian.livejournal.com]

That's so awful. Your poor friend. I can't imagine her grief and sadness right now.

I'm so sorry for your loss too, Roxy. Knowing someone for her whole life...it still leaves a sad gap.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

When my cousin called to tell me, all I could say was no--it just didn't seem possible. I can't even begin to imagine how horrible this must be for her. Those two were so close. Thank you so much for your sympathy, my dear.

[rednihilist.livejournal.com]

Goddamn, hon. Just. . . goddamn.

*LOVE*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*HUGSOHARD*

I can't even believe it, love! It's like a terrible dream!

[twinsarein.livejournal.com]

I can't imagine anything worse. I feel for her loss so much right now, and I've never met her. For someone who knew her almost her whole life...I'm sorry for your loss, as well. *clings*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*HUGHUGHUG*

Thank you, my dear. It's just insane--I can barely believe it.

[rosy5000.livejournal.com]

Oh Roxy, that's so sad to her. :( My thoughts are with you and your friend. *hugs to you both*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*CLINGS TO YOU*

[onelittlesleep.livejournal.com]

Oh, I can't imagine losing a child. I know she can't be well, but I hope she can find comfort in the people who love and support her. And I hope there is some way you guys can connect together, because it sounds like she might need a friend like you right now.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I know--oh gosh, I wouldn't let my kid leave my side tonight, I had to keep looking at her and touching her.

A lot of people came to be with her, and that was wonderful, plus, so many of her daughters friends were there with her. We've offered to help her with funeral arrangements--she and my Ed go to the same church--yeah, weird, right? Hopefully she will keep in touch. It's just such an overwhelming thing.

[cha.livejournal.com]

OOh, that's horrible. I do hope that your friend is okay and I'm sure she appreciates you contacting her.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much. She's with friends now and I'm hoping she'll want to stay in touch.

Awww, icon hugs!

[dawnybee.livejournal.com]

I am so sorry to hear this. Your poor friend--all of you. Hopefully she's see this as an opportunity to reconnect, she'll need all the support she can get.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I hope she does--she's notorious for pulling away from people. I hope she goes forward and lets all the people she pushed away come help her. She's the kind of person people really love, even though she walks away from them, they still want to help her. *shakes head*

*HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGS* shit. I'm still disbelieving this.

[nataliadarimini.livejournal.com]

Oh no. I am so sorry. I can't even thing about something like that happening. *clings*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you, love. I felt like handcuffing my kid to me, I swear. What a nightmare.

[carolinecrane.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry for both of you. I'm glad she has you there to support her.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much.

[redteekal.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to read this Miss Roxy. It seems recently there have been an inordinately high number of people around me (including my family) affected by sudden and unexpected deaths. I was sad to read about the falling out too - and I'm glad you've made the contact, fingers crossed there's a revitalising of a friendship. Thinking of you.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*hugs*
Thank you. I do hope some small good comes out of this.

[silsbee329.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry, Roxy. *hugs*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you love. *HUG*

[danceswithgary]

It's something I never want to face. *hug*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Worst freaking nightmare ever. I'm starting to cry again responding here. *HUGHUG*

[ladydreamer.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I'm so sorry. :(

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*HUGSBACKHARD*

[myownghost.livejournal.com]

oh gosh, i can only imagine the depth of pain and grief your friend is in. my sympathies to her and to you. it's good that you went to see her, in spite of the estrangement, and that she was receptive. i hope she does call on you if she needs help (which she surely will).

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I hope she does too. I wish we'd had the guts to do it sooner. *HUGHUG*

[romyra]

That's really sad news Roxy. I hope that if she needs too she does reach out since I thinks that maybe she will need all the support she can get.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I hope she'll let everyone who wants to help in. She will need it.

[me-ya-ri.livejournal.com]

*snuggle-hugs* I'm so sorry to hear that, Roxy!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much, my dear. *hugs*

[goth-clark.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I am so sorry.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*hughug*

Thank you so much love.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

ach, thank you my dear, thank you.

[lexalicious70.livejournal.com]

How awful for this person. I wouldn't wish that on my most horrible enemy.

Also, you are a wonderful person for reaching out to her after she snubbed you. *HUGEHUGS*

I hope everything works out, love. Sending good thoughts.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

oh no, we had to go. There wasn't even a choice, you know? And I never had a bad feeling towards her or her kid, it was just--what happened. Because I knew how they could be. *HUGHUGHUG* Thank you, love.

[carolandtom.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry, Roxy. My heart goes out to your friend and to you. *Hugs tight*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*clings to you*

Thank you *so* much.

[tabaqui]

Oh, bb. That's so damn awful. I can't even imagine having to live through such a thing. I'm glad you can be there for your friend, despite the estrangement.

*hugs you tight*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Girl, I feel like screaming and kicking things. What the fuck--no mom should have to go through that--ever. I feel so bad for her and in the long run, nothing I can do will make her feel better. It's terrible. And the more I respond to these wonderful kind comments, the more I feel like crying, heh.

*really needs your hug right now*