Top? Bottom?

[roxy]

I sent a note to sillie82 recently, because of an interesting comment in a post of mine. I thought I should share my wondering with you,'cause I'm nice like that.

The issue was warning for top/bottom. Now me, I don’t get why it matters. I like switching the best, maybe I'm just greedy. In years past, I would have really gotten steamed about being asked to warn for who tops or bottoms. Nowadays, I sort of get that it's not my judgment to make, and for some people, it's *very* important. I'm working like hell to be more open to other folks—so I'm going to try and remember to tag for that stuff.

A question to you all.

I get how you label Top Dean(or top whoever). That means of course, that Dean is fucking various characters, not being fucked. So, how do you label it if there's non-penetrative sex, but one is clearly the aggressor, for lack of a better word? Would the person instigating the sex be the top? Does it even apply in a situation like that?

What do you think? What tags would you like to see that folks don’t use enough? What tags should people stop using? I vote "this is crap I don’t even know". I do—NONCLICKY.

Comments

[elwarre.livejournal.com]

I can count on one hand the number of times I clicked on Dean/Cas.

This is cracking me up, both because I'm totally the same, and also because A Trickle of Strangers is one of only two stories that have Dean/Cas as the primary pairing that I actually liked.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

hah! I'm forever doing something like that--Dean/Cas? Hell no! A Trickle of Strangers...Mpreg? Hell the fuck no! Ripley, Believe It Or Not, plus sequel...

I *adore* Three Kings verse, love it to bits, and it's Dean/Cas and practically porn-free and one of my fav series ever. I'm contrary like that--I earned it. :D :D :D

[elwarre.livejournal.com]

For the sake of any commenters who write Destiel, I should add that my issue isn't that I think it's bad, it's just that I hardly ever read it. I mostly just want to love on Sam.