Top? Bottom?

[roxy]

I sent a note to sillie82 recently, because of an interesting comment in a post of mine. I thought I should share my wondering with you,'cause I'm nice like that.

The issue was warning for top/bottom. Now me, I don’t get why it matters. I like switching the best, maybe I'm just greedy. In years past, I would have really gotten steamed about being asked to warn for who tops or bottoms. Nowadays, I sort of get that it's not my judgment to make, and for some people, it's *very* important. I'm working like hell to be more open to other folks—so I'm going to try and remember to tag for that stuff.

A question to you all.

I get how you label Top Dean(or top whoever). That means of course, that Dean is fucking various characters, not being fucked. So, how do you label it if there's non-penetrative sex, but one is clearly the aggressor, for lack of a better word? Would the person instigating the sex be the top? Does it even apply in a situation like that?

What do you think? What tags would you like to see that folks don’t use enough? What tags should people stop using? I vote "this is crap I don’t even know". I do—NONCLICKY.

Comments

[kinkyheels.livejournal.com]

Well for me this applies to the RPF side of the fandom. I'e never really made it to Wincest regularly. I'm a fan of switching and bottom Jared but almost always write bottom Jensen. Damned muse.

I don't warn for top/bottom and I don't plan to start. I use an expansive list of tags and still there will invariably be someone that is upset because I didn't tag for this or didn't tag for that. Honestly, how many tags can you use before it requires a word count of it's own?

I agree with meus_venator about the name before the slash should represent the top or aggressor. It's a simple solution and requires no extra tags!

[meus_venator]

fufaraw told me that was originally how you were supposed to use the slash in fan fic writing, but I think that notion has been watered down over the years, because I didn't realize. I'd always used Jared/Jensen just because of how it rolls off the tongue. Well in my fics that means it was right about fifty percent of the time LOL!

And mmmmm switching.