this icon is just for the cuteness

[roxy]

wrote big post, deleted it.

Am I boring? I'm afraid I'm boring. I've been driving Mr. insane, worrying that I've become less attractive in my old age. Sort of wattley and flabby and droopy. He insists that I'm still cute but what does he know? Everywhere I go, guys from eighteen to forty are like, excuse me ma'am, do you need help crossing the street, lifting your purse, crawling off that curb--what the fuck ever--I am, to paraphrase Eliot Weston, invisible to teenage boys.

SIIIIIIIIIIIIIGH.

Why am I waiting until 53 to freak about turning 50?


In much much happier and fandom related biz--wednesday100 had a great turnout for the Cinderella prompt! Go read them, there are some tasty little truffles to be had!

Comments

[bittermint.livejournal.com]

I hear ya. Every time I look in the mirror these days, I cringe -- and I've been taking more care with my appearance this year than I have since I was in my 20's.

I think a lot of it is psychological. But on days when my legs hurt and it's hard for me to walk, I do feel old. And I probably act old too.

Old broads unite! *hugs*

[morganichele.livejournal.com]

Boring?! You? Pfft! Never! I think you totally rock.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*clings* I know! And I know I'm acting old too, it's such a shame!

Must tell self, I'm still cute--*thinks hard*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*clings all over you*

My kid says I'm fishing for compliments but that's not *true*--

mostly. *GRIN*

[myownghost.livejournal.com]

i have had the same experience. young men tend to be very sweet to me (which i like), but i fell off male radar sexually years ago. it hurt for a long time, believe me.

you're cute as hell, btw. :)

[vegas-nolan.livejournal.com]

First of all, I agree with everyone else that you are very cute. The face of eeeevol, but cute.

Secondly, you are much more than just your appearance. If I have learned anything from having to dump a guy who thought I was fat, it is that no matter what you look like, you will not only find a man somewhere who very much likes how you look, but will even love you for who you are.

Thirdly, don't underestimate the value of getting ignored by horny teenagers and twenty-somethings. The way guys try to roll up on women these days quite frankly makes me wish I was at all attracted to women so I could switch teams. Young men (and this is a generalization) have no sense of tact, smoothness, romanticism, or even basic respect.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*sniff* Really? you're not just saying that to shut me up?

Yeah...not on the radar hurts a lot. No wonder folks with money go to such crazy lengths to stay young looking. Oh well. So what if they look good--I bet they feel just like I do in the morning...lol!

[myownghost.livejournal.com]

nope, i mean it!

if i had big money, i'd definitely have my under-the-chin area tightened up. the gray hair i like, but the wattle? feh!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

With my brain, I'm hearing you, and agreeing 100%--but with my heart I'm feeling like an old wrinkly kleenix.

here's the weird thing--I keep worrying that Mr. Roxy will get tired of being with an old woman, but my kid tells me I'm nuts, in her words, "Dad's old too."

So I think, love is making me stupid and blind, and to me he looks just like he did when we first met--maybe there's hope that he thinks the same way? LOL!

See, getting old makes you crazy! *G*

[dawnybee.livejournal.com]

Boring? Oh, please. Never that.

As for the guys helping you, it's because they're trying to feel up all on you! Guy move #32.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

LOL!!!! Oh,and here I was thinking they were afraid I was gonna break a hip...*GRIN

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

You're so not boring!:D

[rosy5000.livejournal.com]

You...boring? Are you crazy??? *grins* (ok... no need to answer that) hehehee

I think you're just downright adorable and VERY huggable! :D

*jumps on you and smothers you in hugs in kisses*

[tabaqui]

*snuggles you*
I think you're cute as a bug, honey.
And fuck teen-age boys. They're so annoying. And smelly. Let 'em be all over each other - i'd rather watch.
:)

[danceswithgary]

You are *so* not boring and that man loves you, just like mine loves me. Ain't it grand?

[kristiinthedark.livejournal.com]

You are the opposite of boring, Roxy. Just sayin' *hearts you like whoa*

[kaydee23.livejournal.com]

What are you rattling on about? Let me turn up my hearing aid so I can hear you better. I'm depressed about being 45. :sigh:

I know you're cute and hot. Mr Roxy is a smart man, and he's got great taste. Don't try to make him a liar.

I've been invisible to teenage boys most of my life, even when I was a teenager.

((((hugs)))) you hard!

[ninasis.livejournal.com]

You know, my mom was talking to me yesterday and I swear it was this exact topic. She turned 50 last October, and was all, "Weeee...50!!!" at first, but the last few weeks she's found herself in a slump. My brother's leaving for college, which only leaves 2 "kids" at home full-time. My dad's working weird hours, and when he's not working he's waging his never ending battle with drinking too much (and lately he's been losing that battle more than winning.) I think she's just found herself at a kind of crossroads in her life, where she's not needed as a full-time mother/caretaker and it's messing with her sense of self.

I have no advice - I mean, what words of wisdom could I offer anyone? LOL I just thought it was interesting that your post echoed her thoughts almost exactly. I don't want her poking into LJ (not because she'd be weirded out over the gay porn or anything, just because she would totally take over the joint and I'd have to run away...) but I did tell her that I'd read someone's blog entry about the same thing, so at least she's not alone.

I hope I look half as good as you both when I'm your age! And I hope I'm even a fraction as feisty and cool as you both!

[quiet--tiger.livejournal.com]

The icon is adorable.

And you are absolutely far from boring. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

oh, you just say that because you like my whacked out Lucas. thank goodness! *hugs*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

YaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaY!
HUGS!!

*clings back*

*wonders if she is* crazy--laughs--heck yeah!*

[rosy5000.livejournal.com]

Gotta be at least a little crazy... otherwise life is no fun. :0

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Watching is good...I forgot about that smelly thing though--ew!*HUGS*

I'm so crap with responding lately, these stories be eating my brain. :)

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Well, he did take some time out of his busy schedule to let me know that I was still the one, so that made me happy. :)

Yeah, I'm not cazy all the way, I know I'm lucky in love!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Heee! Have I told you lately that I think you are the bee's knees?

You--you with the making me laugh!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I feel your mom completely! And you are very kind *G*.

Am staring at your icon

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmsigh*
You make me feel good--you always do!

[toldthestars.livejournal.com]

Hey, I'm 22 and I usually feel off the male sexual radar...unless, of course, I happen to be at a gas station. The Shiny Princess has some nerve, saying you're fishing for compliments, being Ms. EatsWorms herself.
I should remind you that you're the person that makes me not afraid of old age. You're the person that made me realize I don't have to wear beige and watch HGTV for seven hours a day as I fold my family's underwear. You're yourself, not a 50-something year old woman, you know? You're going to be that way for the rest of your life. You're Roxy, fer cryin' out loud.
Besides, the young guys may not notice you cause you're older, but hell, you're probably having better sex than all of them combined, anyway, so what's it matter? (that's the line I use to comfort myself when my roommates get hit on instead of me. it works because it's so true)
Anyway, hope that helps. I'm taking an early lunch now...even though I just got done a late breakfast...office livin' is gonna be hard on me, as you can see...

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you, it means a lot coming from you, oh purveyor of fic that makes my heart sing!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

It does, it does, I love you so much! Thank you hunny bunny!

Oh hey, let me give you this link for when the office is dull--it's a little story about Whitney and Lex--just for fun!

http://roxyrose.insanejournal.com/tag/the+persistence+of+vision