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[roxy]

So, let me see if I can explain my absence--and yeah, for me, it's been pretty much an absence because I post nearly every day, even if it's just to chat about the horrible pimple I've developed on my wattle, which, true, but not the reason I'm posting tonight.



We've been on a rollercoaster ride with my dad. The ups and downs have been trying, to say the least. I'm trying to decide what to do--plan his future, I guess. We spoke tonight about what he wants. He's a little scattered, but not that much. He understood what I asked, and made suggestions. He worries too much. He's not a hundred per cent sure I can handle this but...who else has he got? What I should have done is given all the info to Mr. R and sent him in to talk to Dad. *g*

Dad's been in and out of the hospital twice since the last time I mentioned him here. I've had a meeting with the folks at the assisted living facility where he's been the last 8 years. They want him back, but I'm not sure they can handle his needs. He can't get up on his own, so he can't make it to the bathroom, even with assistance. Which means he needs to be cleaned and changed in bed and he has diarrhea frequently. He's got a feeding tube, no food at all by mouth. That means he needs to be monitored, and the feeding tube cleaned and really, he needs 24 hour assistance. They're not normally set up for that but they assure me, it would work. Except on holidays, or if someone calls out, or...stuff. So. I'm still thinking. At any rate, it's not easy.

The lady who runs the assisted living facility seems to think that I'm not letting myself really look at the situation as it really is. Maybe. I'm just waffling back and forth and no one can really tell you what to do, least of all Dad. I have no idea how to have this conversation with him. I can't. I really, really, don't know what to do. My brother comes up in two weeks. Maybe by then, I'll know, if not, maybe he can help me decide what to do. Oy.


Maybe later on, I'll post a little snippet of what I've been working on, kinda sorta. A sentence here, a word there--eh.

ETA: thanks you guys--you make me feel so much better. I really appreciate it! *hugs you all*

Comments

[mecurtin.livejournal.com]

Just, {{{hugs}}}

[valentinemichel.livejournal.com]

Oh, Ms. Roxy.

*hugs you tight*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

God, thanks so much. I feel a selfish need for tons of hugs.

[garryowen.livejournal.com]

Aw, Roxy. Tough decisions. I hope you can find good care for your dad. It's so hard being old.

*hug*

[ellyfanfic.livejournal.com]

((((Hugs))))

[goth-clark.livejournal.com]

{{{HUGS}}}

[silsbee329.livejournal.com]

*lots and lots of hugs*

[me-ya-ri.livejournal.com]

*Great big hugs*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*hugs back hard*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I just feel so bad that I can't do anything to make it easier.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

thank you so much, I really need some hug about now.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

thank you, dear, thanks so much

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*siiiiigh* thank you, lovey.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*CLINGS*

[danceswithgary]

Really tough situation. My sympathy. *HUGS*

[norwich36.livejournal.com]

*hugs you tight*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

ah--not nearly as much as what you're going through, love. *HUGHUG* miss you here something fierce.

[dm-wyatt.livejournal.com]

Aw...

I know this is tough for you.

*HUGS*

Hang in there, sweetie.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you, dear heart, thank you.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGS*
I'm okay, just worrying about Dad, y'know.

[rhiannonhero.livejournal.com]

Oh, man. I wish I knew what to say. My heart goes out to you.

[ladydreamer.livejournal.com]

So hard. :/ *hugs!*

[rosy5000.livejournal.com]

*hugs and cuddles you* Even the idea that one day I'll have to deal with problems like this with my parents scares me. I'm just happy I have 6 siblings to help with any decisions. *huggles* ♥

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I know--I worry about BG, who's one solitary kid. I hope to hell it won't be as bad for her. :(

*HUGGLES RIGHT BACK*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much for the hug, my dear. *hugsback*