I need a spine!

[roxy]

My friends list is *full* of folks who aren't here anymore or who have wandered away from this place. If I defriend these no-longer active accounts, are they still counted as friends on my profile page? It seems silly to have this huge count when it's not even true. Though I know that personally I'm more comfortable cold-friending people when I see they have a billion friends--kind of that slip in all unnoticed thing. I know this is just going to end up another round of me unsuccessfully trying to clean house. The last time I defriended folks, I think I cut three journals that hadn't been updated since 2006. I'm such a doof. I mean--they're not even *there*! They won't care or notice. But what if they do and I hurt their feelings???

Why am I such a weinie?

I'm this way about picking one brand of coffee over the other, too.

Comments

[silsbee329.livejournal.com]

There used to be a time when a person's profile page meant something! You'd try to make that shit appealing, and decorate it and stuff... And it was great. I could spend hours just looking at folks' profiles.

Now? Nothing. Nobody cares anymore (or is here anymore). :(

As for friends cuts, I am going to throw a wrench into this consensus and say that I make cuts often. I like the tidiness. And I just feel weird keeping journals attached when there's nobody on the other end of the line anymore. It makes me sad, but I do it anyway. I only keep the people who were very good friends: like you said, I don't want them to check in someday (for kicks) and think that I don't want them around anymore.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

You're right, folks don't do anything anymore. It's nothing like it used to be. At the risk of sounding all "getofmylawn", the folks are rude, they're not helpful, or they don't want to listen. Who helps the newbies anymore? People just mock, or ignore. Folks were so nice to me when I started out here, so helpful and patient, and when I made huge mistakes, no one jumped down my throat.

remember when people used to make pretties for each other? I only have one or two folks anymore who make beautiful things for people 'just because.'

*sigh* I'm getting old. Doesn't matter. You're stuck with me forever. :)


or, y'know...as long as I can lift my shaky hands to hit the keyboard....

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