I need a spine!

[roxy]

My friends list is *full* of folks who aren't here anymore or who have wandered away from this place. If I defriend these no-longer active accounts, are they still counted as friends on my profile page? It seems silly to have this huge count when it's not even true. Though I know that personally I'm more comfortable cold-friending people when I see they have a billion friends--kind of that slip in all unnoticed thing. I know this is just going to end up another round of me unsuccessfully trying to clean house. The last time I defriended folks, I think I cut three journals that hadn't been updated since 2006. I'm such a doof. I mean--they're not even *there*! They won't care or notice. But what if they do and I hurt their feelings???

Why am I such a weinie?

I'm this way about picking one brand of coffee over the other, too.

Comments

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

It always makes me sad when I go through my flist and take off people who haven't posted in two years or more. There are so many disappearing from LJ :/

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I've had so many LJs with strike-throughs popping up on my friends list lately, plus all those LJs where folks aren't posting anymore just make me sad, too. I remember when it used to take me forever to go through updates after work. Now, one cup of coffee and a half hour, and I'm done.

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

My flist used to skip back 300 entires per day, now it's like 40-60 entries :/

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

RIGHT? I miss those days.

[coneyislandbaby]

I really need to get my act together and post more, but I hope I'm not entirely disappeared yet :)

[bt-kady.livejournal.com]

I know how you feel. I know I friended with people for a reason (probably because I loved a fic or art of theirs) but if they haven't updated in a while, I ought to defriend them. Then I think, what if I defriend them, then right after I do, they post something awesome and I miss it?

I feel your pain.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I'm so glad I'm not being weird with this feeling! I hate hurting people's feelings!

Which is really weird because I'm kind of a bitch otherwise. :)

[bt-kady.livejournal.com]

Well...bitch with a heart of gold? You have to be bitchy sometimes. This fandom drives you there.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*GRINS*

Oh, I know, I know! :)

[bt-kady.livejournal.com]

*high fives you*

[danceswithgary]

You made me check mine and ack! I really don't have the energy to try to weed them out.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Oh gosh, I can't even imagine! And I always think, what if an old friend comes back to LJ and sees I defriended them--then they might not feel comfortable enough to to get in touch...oy. And on and on it goes--lol!!

[nicnac918.livejournal.com]

You have to be sensitive with those coffees. Some roasts can be really sensitive. *nods*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Oh gosh, I know!! Don't even get me started about the bold roasts--talk about cheeky! And then there's the decafs, such divas!

[tuckercat2.livejournal.com]

I understand I dont clean my list either. Just make sure to leave me on the list! Grins I would miss you!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

You, miss, are staying right here with me!!

[tuckercat2.livejournal.com]

Lucky me! Yes! Happy dance!

[mahaliem.livejournal.com]

There might be some like me - people who still lurk but rarely post.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Miss Thing! Like I'd EVER defriend you, no way, no how! Just seeing your name makes me smile, and seeing you *here*--I'm all "OOO! mahaliem! I have folks on my list I'll keep, whether they want it or not, lol!

[tabaqui]

Heee!
I dunno - why houseclean? If they're not posting, then they're not cluttering up your flist with crap you don't care about, and you don't have a limit to the number of people you can friend, so..... What's the point?

I don't ever look at anyone's profile page when i friend, i just friend off the little menu that pops up off their icon and that's that.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

It's just so...messy! There's names everywhere and I don't even know some of them--probably most...am I obsessing again? I'm obsessing...okay, sitting down.
*g*

[tabaqui]

Dude!
I can't even remember the last time i looked at my profile page. Who cares! It's all in alphabetical order, it's all hidden away, for the most part.....

Just ignore it and go on your merry way.
*twirls you*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*nods*

I'm supposed to be writing anyway. Which is probably why this suddenly got all important and shit. *GGG*

[tabaqui]

*snerk*

[stir-of-echoes.livejournal.com]

I do miss the days were it used to take me forever to get through my flist because there has been so much interesting activity, and fic and meta and show talk been going on while I've been asleep or away from the internet.

LJ is quiet lately :(

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Right? I feel like an old fuddy-duddy, but--those were the days. I miss them too.

[cha.livejournal.com]

they will still be counted unless they remove you

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I throw my hands up! I'm keeping everyone!!

[write-light.livejournal.com]

Coffee, no, no. You buy either Café La Llave (green can) or Café Bustelo (yellow can) and you mix that 50/50 with French Market Coffee (red can). HEAVEN.

(I have no advice on defriending, since I'm just like you).

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Goodness, it's like you're talking coffee flavored porn....

I have no advice on defriending, since I'm just like you

I've decided that I'm just going to have to let it go. I'm just never going to be able to woman up and make cuts.

[dimeliora.livejournal.com]

Well I don't think you'll hurt the feelings of people who aren't active anymore, but it's totally reasonable to worry about the emotional state of coffee. I know this is true, because it is full of caffeine, and that makes coffee unstable and twitchy. You don't want to upset that sort of personality. Daaaangerous.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

SEE!!! And here the Fam thinks I'm all weird because of my relationship with coffee. Tchah!

[myownghost.livejournal.com]

Oh, me too, moreso at Daisy than here. Honestly, I have no idea who a lot of the names are, or were. I'm trying to get used to senior moments. ;)

I'm almost never here at this account, but pls. to be keeping it on your list, so I feel included. :D

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I love you like a fat kid loves cake. I'm keeping you forever , sweetie pie!

[myownghost.livejournal.com]

Hooray! *tosses hat in air like Mary Tyler Moore (or more like Phyllis, really)*

Mmmmm, cake. <3 <3 <3

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*snuggles*

Cool! Phyllis was my favorite! :D

[peepingdru.livejournal.com]

I dunno...but I does now I loves coffee:::DDDDDDDDDDD

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

yes lord, coffee, i love it *so*!!!!!!!

[silsbee329.livejournal.com]

There used to be a time when a person's profile page meant something! You'd try to make that shit appealing, and decorate it and stuff... And it was great. I could spend hours just looking at folks' profiles.

Now? Nothing. Nobody cares anymore (or is here anymore). :(

As for friends cuts, I am going to throw a wrench into this consensus and say that I make cuts often. I like the tidiness. And I just feel weird keeping journals attached when there's nobody on the other end of the line anymore. It makes me sad, but I do it anyway. I only keep the people who were very good friends: like you said, I don't want them to check in someday (for kicks) and think that I don't want them around anymore.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

You're right, folks don't do anything anymore. It's nothing like it used to be. At the risk of sounding all "getofmylawn", the folks are rude, they're not helpful, or they don't want to listen. Who helps the newbies anymore? People just mock, or ignore. Folks were so nice to me when I started out here, so helpful and patient, and when I made huge mistakes, no one jumped down my throat.

remember when people used to make pretties for each other? I only have one or two folks anymore who make beautiful things for people 'just because.'

*sigh* I'm getting old. Doesn't matter. You're stuck with me forever. :)


or, y'know...as long as I can lift my shaky hands to hit the keyboard....

[silsbee329.livejournal.com]

[coneyislandbaby]

I'm still here! I don't post much but I am always reading and I know you likely won't but I need assurance :D

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

See this big ole heart shaped spot right here? That's yours, forever. :)

♥

[romyra]

I'm still here! Just you know....lurking.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Oh, good!


*hugglehuggle*

I'm so glad you're still here, even if you're lurking about! ;)