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[roxy]

So, let me see if I can explain my absence--and yeah, for me, it's been pretty much an absence because I post nearly every day, even if it's just to chat about the horrible pimple I've developed on my wattle, which, true, but not the reason I'm posting tonight.



We've been on a rollercoaster ride with my dad. The ups and downs have been trying, to say the least. I'm trying to decide what to do--plan his future, I guess. We spoke tonight about what he wants. He's a little scattered, but not that much. He understood what I asked, and made suggestions. He worries too much. He's not a hundred per cent sure I can handle this but...who else has he got? What I should have done is given all the info to Mr. R and sent him in to talk to Dad. *g*

Dad's been in and out of the hospital twice since the last time I mentioned him here. I've had a meeting with the folks at the assisted living facility where he's been the last 8 years. They want him back, but I'm not sure they can handle his needs. He can't get up on his own, so he can't make it to the bathroom, even with assistance. Which means he needs to be cleaned and changed in bed and he has diarrhea frequently. He's got a feeding tube, no food at all by mouth. That means he needs to be monitored, and the feeding tube cleaned and really, he needs 24 hour assistance. They're not normally set up for that but they assure me, it would work. Except on holidays, or if someone calls out, or...stuff. So. I'm still thinking. At any rate, it's not easy.

The lady who runs the assisted living facility seems to think that I'm not letting myself really look at the situation as it really is. Maybe. I'm just waffling back and forth and no one can really tell you what to do, least of all Dad. I have no idea how to have this conversation with him. I can't. I really, really, don't know what to do. My brother comes up in two weeks. Maybe by then, I'll know, if not, maybe he can help me decide what to do. Oy.


Maybe later on, I'll post a little snippet of what I've been working on, kinda sorta. A sentence here, a word there--eh.

ETA: thanks you guys--you make me feel so much better. I really appreciate it! *hugs you all*

Comments

[lexophilia.livejournal.com]

I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I love you, my dear.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I love you! *huggles* Thank you so much!

[ender24]

*carefully dibs you*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*happysigh*

[lexalicious70.livejournal.com]

Honey. *HUGS*

We went through this with my dad toward the end of things, and those decisions are so hard to make. I'm so sorry.

If you need anything, we're all here, and you know that, right? *MIGHTYHUGS*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you love--I know you guys are thinking kind thoughts and boy, I *really* appreciate it!

[tabaqui]

The lady who runs the assisted living facility seems to think that I'm not letting myself really look at the situation as it really is.

Okay, what in the *world* does that mean? It seems like you're looking at it very realistically and practically, noticing that they really don't actually provide the kind of services that he needs.

Maybe you, your brother, and Mr. Roxy need to sit down with her and really grill her on how they're going to take care of him. And then, if her answers don't muster up to what he *actually really needs*, you can start looking at your other options, whatever they may be. Which i have no clue about.

Bleh. *hugs you tight, tight, tight*

I luff you, bay-bee. I'm here if you need me.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

E-mailing you, okay? *HUGS*

[tabaqui]

Of course okay.

[toldthestars.livejournal.com]

As it goes in the song, "Just call my name, and I'll be there." There's even a verse about cursing out SEPTA, PATCO and the Riverline on the way. What, you've never heard that version?

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I love you, my little infant!

[carolandtom.livejournal.com]

I can only send you much love and hugs, dear Roxy. *Hugs*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much, love--it makes a world of difference when I peek in here and see how kind everyone is. *HUGS* I hope next time I post on this, it's all good news!

[voldything.livejournal.com]

I'm sure whatever you decide in the end will be the best possible curse of action *HUGS*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much, love! *hugsback*

[herohunter.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*wraps around you*