I don't know what to do

[roxy]

This is the third time my dad's been sent back to the ER from his nursing home. I'm about to head out there now. I'm feeling some stress about this, and it's kicking up all my physical problems. I don't think I can spend all night in the ER again.

ETA: ♥ you guys, thank you *so* so much. I appreciate your good wishes and your excellent advice. I'll answer you all tomorrow, and hopefully will have some better idea about my dad. Thank you again. *HUUUUUUUGS*

What would I do without you all?

Comments

[tuckercat2.livejournal.com]

HUGS!!!!!!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

HUGS back--I really need them, thank you my dear!

[nataliadarimini.livejournal.com]

I am so sorry. I'm going to pray for him. I wish there was something I could do for you. I don't ever want you to be unhappy.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Just knowing that makes me feel better beloved, trust me.

[silvervalley.livejournal.com]

I have been there so I understand. There is nothing you can do but wait most of time, helpless and tired both physically and mentally.
Hope your dad gets better.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Yes a million times to that. Thank you so very much.

[myownghost.livejournal.com]

oh dear, i'm so sorry. the ER is stressful and even harrowing. hope it turns out that they don't keep him there that long. <3

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

It's so horrible. Mr. R went with me last night and we lost the last bit of our shredded nerves. This back and forth is wearing on all of us, even Mr. R--I'm afraid I didn't handle it very well last night.


eta: with you i'm forever forgetting pseuds ♥

[myownghost.livejournal.com]

that's awful. i hate it that you all have to keep going through this. *hugs*

btw, would it be better if i made sure always to use one or the other account? i don't mean to be confusing, but i check your posts from both flists! i could be more consistent. <3

[ctbn60.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

Hang in there honey!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you, love!

[lexalicious70.livejournal.com]

Sending hugs and good vibes your way, my dear. Hang in there!

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much, lovey.

[tabaqui]

Ah, bb.
*hugs*

Okay, what happens in the ER? Is he sedated? Are you sitting with him, or is he off somewhere and you're waiting? Does he talk, wanting someone there, or is he dozing, in pain, testy?

You don't *have* to be there. Go and see what's what, see if he's comfortable, talk to him a little, and then *go home*. Exhausting yourself and kicking your own health issues into high gear isn't a helpful *or* a good thing.

He knows you love him, bb - you can still love him at home. Go see him in the morning, again, that's all.
*hugs you tight*

All good thoughts.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Good, good advice. I will take it. I had a little bit of a meltdown last night and of course it all fell out over Mr. R who, thank goodness is a man of common sense and extreme patience. I didn't even think I was handling it not so well, I just felt sooooooo tired, and a little grumpy. I just call the ICU and he's still where he was last night, still sedated. I'm heading off to work in a few and I'll stop in after to see him.

I don't know if I'm just avoiding the idea but I can't believe he won't recover.

[tabaqui]

*hugs more*

The 'wait and see' game is the worst there is. Try not to exhaust yourself. It'll be okay. I'm here if you need *anything* i can give, okay? Don't hesitate.

[tasabian.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry. That's so stressful. You need to make sure you get some rest too.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*HUGS*

That, my dear, is very, very good advice. ♥

[jackien1968.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. I wish you and him the best. Try not to stay all night if you can get him settled in, you need your health.

HUGS,
Jackie

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you so very much, my dear--*HUGS*

[twinsarein.livejournal.com]

Oh no. I'm so sorry, Roxy. Such a troubling situation. I don't have any advice better than tabaqui, so I'll just say I hope you follow it, and I will be thinking of you, your dad, and the rest of your family during such a hard and stressful time. {{{HUGS}}}

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGS*

TQ always gives good advice. ♥

[rosy5000.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Sending my best wishes. I'll be thinking of you tonight. ♥

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you love--I talked to the nurse tonight and things don't seem as bleak now, thank god. *HUGHUG*

[honeyandvinegar.livejournal.com]

Oh, hunny. I'm so sorry. *strong hug*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*clings* Thanks love--we had a bit of good news tonight, things aren't as bleak as they seemed yesterday, thank goodness.

[lexophilia.livejournal.com]

I love you, my dear.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Oh my dear, thank you so very, very much! I love you too!

[dawnybee.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I'm keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers and sending positive energy your way. Remember he needs you to be well too. I know it's stressful and you want to be there but you must pace yourself.

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

All the prayers must be working love--his lungs are clearing and his blood pressure is starting to level out. The nurse said the antibiotics are kicking in. Mr R called him Superman tonight, lol! 91 years old and fighting. You can't tell me being bitter and sarcastic isn't beneficial to your health, hah!

[cha.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

*HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGS*

[calijirl5150.livejournal.com]

Adds you & your family to my prayers .

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Thank you love--the prayers are helping!!

[coneyislandbaby]

You and he are in my thoughts. I love you Roxy *hugs*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Oh, thank you, my dear, thank you! Love you right back. *HUG*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Oh my, thank you so much--I need those hugs!

[danceswithgary]

*hug*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

There's been an upswing--I can't believe how tough that 91 year old guy is--Mr R called him Superman. :)

[sweptawaybayou.livejournal.com]

*hugshugshugshugshugs*

you're in my thoughts, miz roxy.

xoxoxoxo

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

Oh love, you are the *BEST*.

[bonehed.livejournal.com]

Hello Honeyist,

Sorry I'm late with the hugs and well wishes and hugs and more hugs. The big good ones that go all the way around and hang on tight with a little bit of rocking and kisses on the side of the forehead. Those kind.

So please have the Mister apply liberaly until slight bone melting occurs and soothing relief melts inside. :-) Wish I could remember how to make the hearts...just pretend they are right here.....

XXOOO,
me

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

You just described the world's most perfect hug! *happy sigh*

And thank you for all the hearts--I imagined a million! *smoochhug*

[digitalwave]

Sweetie,

With everything going on with mom I missed this post. Thank goodness things are looking better for your dad, now. I'm so glad, both for you and him.

What is with this year and putting all our poor parents through the wringer? I've seen post after post like ours lately. The universe just needs to stop already.

*hugs you really hard*

[roxymissrose.livejournal.com]

I swear, everybody does seem to be going through it. This year needs to stop all ready.

*HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGS*